Hi. This is Gill at www.engvid.com, and todaywe're going to look at a particular type of thing that happens to people in their lives andalso to look at the kind of way we describe it in the English language. Okay? So, we'resaying: “Don't get stressed out!” Right? Now, getting stressed out is, with modern life, thereare so many demands; we have to do things quickly, we have to survive, have somewhereto live, enough food to eat, somewhere to work, all of these things, and it causes alot of stress. Okay? So this word “stress” is when you're feeling very… Very upset andagitated, and worried because of everything that you have to do and everything that'shappening, and whether you can cope with it or not. So, modern life has a lot of stressesand strains. “Strains” are the same idea, .

Really, things sort of pulling you around,making you do this and that, and you feel all the time you're having to do what otherpeople want you to do, and you have no control over what you're doing, all of that kind ofthing. And it can be quite upsetting if you don't feel you're incontrol of the situation. So… So we're saying: “Don't get stressedout!” This is maybe a little bit of advice in here, along with the way of expressingit, about how to cope with stress if you're feeling stressed. Okay? So there's lots ofpressure in the modern world, it can be traumatic, it can cause you a lot of anxiety. We're alwaysbeing bombarded by information, advertising: “Buy this. Do this. You should be doing this.”And there's a lot of pressure on people to .

Do things that maybe they don't really wantto do or they don't see the point of doing, but other people are pressurizingthem to do it. Okay? So… So what someone might say if they'rein a job that is very, what we'd say highly pressured, a job that is very busy with a lotof responsibilities, somebody might say: “I can't take the stress of this job!” Meaning:”I can't… I can't do it. I can't keep having all this stress every day.It's too much.” Okay? So: “I can't take thestress of this job!” All right? One of the terms we use for when you're morecomfortable with what you're doing is that you're in your “comfort zone”. It's like azone, it's an area where you're comfortable. .

The things that you're happy doing, the thingsthat you are confident doing, that's in your comfort zone. So maybe being at home, watchingtelevision is in your comfort zone. Maybe going and playing some sports, going swimmingwhich you enjoy, going out with friends may all be in your comfort zone where you arecomfortable. Okay? So you stay inside your comfort zone if you don'treally want to try new things. But sometimes, it's a good idea to go outsideyour comfort zone or step outside your comfort zone just to test what you might be capableof doing. Okay? Just try a little something that's different to see how it goes. So it'snot always a good idea to stay within your comfort zone all the time. Try to step outsideit occasionally. I often try to try something .

New, see how it goes, and if it's successful,then you feel great. “I've learnt something new, here”, and then you feel good about yourself.Okay? So, this term also: “Pushing the envelope” is another way of saying “going outside yourcomfort zone”, “stepping outside”. The idea of being inside an envelope, you have a letterinside, but the envelope is closed. But if you push the envelope, you're sort of pushingoutside it, trying something new, something different. Okay? Sotrying new things. And then we're all different, we all havedifferent personalities and we had different upbringings, childhoods, education, and soon, so everybody's different. Some people actually like stress. Some people thrive onstress, meaning it gives them a lot of energy. .

Okay? They get a lot of energy from stress. Stressproduces this, I think it's a hormone, adrenaline, which gives people a boost andmakes them want to run fast or do something with a lot of energy and strength. So somepeople thrive on stress. Other people, they just cannot cope with stress. They can't do…They can't, you know… They can't do anything with it. They don't want to have any stress, becausethey can't manage it. They can't manage it. So “to cope” is to sort of manage somethingand be okay, but some people just cannot. They're not okay if they're feeling stressed,because they don't know how to move ahead with it. They can't use it, you know, to goahead and do something positive. Or they can .

Possibly learn to do that, though, with adifferent way of thinking about it. Okay. So, then there… Psychologists love to dividethings up into categories, and so here are some types of stress which psychologists haveidentified. There are four here. There are probably more, but just to look at these fourtypes of stress. One of them is to do with time. So some people are always anxious aboutthe time, and how much time they've got to do something. They're worried about if theyhave a train to catch: “Oh, I'm going to miss the train if I don't leave now.” Always anxiousabout: “Oh, I've got to be somewhere else soon. I mustn't be late.” And I don't like beinglate, so that's slightly one of my things. I'm often quite early because I hate to be late.So time is one of the issues with stress. .

People feel stressed if they think that they'regoing to be late or they haven't got enough time for something. Okay, the type of stress to do with situationsthat you find yourself in, where maybe you go into a room for a meeting and there's afeeling that you're not really in control of your life at that point. Other people seemto be controlling things and you don't feel in control. So if you feel you're losing controlof your life at any stage, that can cause stress. And also, it can affect… If youhave… Everyone has a kind of sense of their status in society, so if people feel thatthey're losing their status for some reason… If they are in a meeting and people are justnot looking at you, if they're ignoring you .

As if you're not there, you think: “Oh, theydon't think I'm important enough to look at or to speak to.” So you sort of feel you'relosing status, so that can cause stress. Okay? Third type of stress: anticipation. To do withthe future. If you're constantly worrying about what's going to happen in the future…”Oh, I've got a meeting next week and I've got to give a talk, and I'm already gettingstressed about it. What am I going to do?” And you might be having a panic attack orsomething, and hyperventilating. That's when you can't breathe properly, like that. Anticipation,thinking, thinking, thinking all the time about something and getting obsessed aboutit, rather than maybe just sitting down and thinking: “Okay, well, I'm giving a talk nextweek. I'd better start writing down some ideas .

For my talk.” But if you don't do the practicalside of it, you are going to get stressed by the thought of not being preparedfor that talk or whatever it is. Okay? And finally, the type of stress, encounter,which means meeting, meeting people. Some people love to meet new people, meeting strangersand getting to know them. Other people are scared of… Afraid of meeting new peopleor maybe they are people that you know, but you don't really want to see them again, youfeel a bit threatened by them for some reason, maybe for good reasons. So the thought ofmeeting a certain person again who maybe you had an argument with could create stress, andyou think: “Oh, I'm not going to go. I'm not going to
that party because that personmight be there, so I'm going to stay home .

Instead.” And that's what happens with peoplewho can't cope with stress often withdraw from society; they stay at home,they don't go out sometimes. So it's a sad situationto get into. So I think my main piece of advice from thislesson is to just try stepping outside your comfort zone occasionally, try new things,test yourself out, try some new things, and you can gain confidence from that, finding:”Oh, I can do that. I didn't think I could do that, and I've just done it”, whateverit is. Parachuting from a plane or anything like that. So you can get a huge boost of confidencejust by trying something new occasionally. All right? And avoiding stress. .

So, okay, well I hope that's been helpful andalso taught you maybe some new vocabulary as well, connected with the subject.So if you'd like to take a quiz, please go to the website,www.engvid.com, and do a quiz. And if you'd like to subscribeto my YouTube channel, that would be great. And look forwardto seeing you again next time. Okay. Bye for now.
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http://www.engvid.com/ Want to practice your conversational English? In this lesson we’ll talk about stress! Do you stress out about school? Work? Public speaking? Or do you thrive in stressful situations? Today, you’ll learn vocabulary and expressions to describe stress and the situations that cause stress. I’ll also share my tips to cope with stress. Whether at work, school, or at home, we often talk about stress. Watch this lesson and don’t let speaking English stress you out! http://www.engvid.com/speaking-english-stress/ TRANSCRIPT Hi. This is Gill at www.engvid.com, and today we’re going to look at a particular type of thing that happens to people in their lives and also to look at the kind of way we describe it in the English language. Okay? So, we’re saying: “Don’t get stressed out!” Right? Now, getting stressed out is, with modern life, there are so many demands; we have to do things quickly, we have to survive, have somewhere to live, enough food to eat, somewhere to work, all of these things, and it causes a lot of stress. Okay? So this word “stress” is when you’re feeling very… Very upset and agitated, and worried because of everything that you have to do and everything that’s happening, and whether you can cope with it or not. So, modern life has a lot of stresses and strains. “Strains” are the same idea, really, things sort of pulling you around, making you do this and that, and you feel all the time you’re having to do what other people want you to do, and you have no control over what you’re doing, all of that kind of thing. And it can be quite upsetting if you don’t feel you’re in control of the situation. So… So we’re saying: “Don’t get stressed out!” This is maybe a little bit of advice in here, along with the way of expressing it, about how to cope with stress if you’re feeling stressed. Okay? So there’s lots of pressure in the modern world, it can be traumatic, it can cause you a lot of anxiety. We’re always being bombarded by information, advertising: “Buy this. Do this. You should be doing this.” And there’s a lot of pressure on people to do things that maybe they don’t really want to do or they don’t see the point of doing, but other people are pressurizing them to do it. Okay? So… So what someone might say if they’re in a job that is very, what we’d say highly pressured, a job that is very busy with a lot of responsibilities, somebody might say: “I can’t take the stress of this job!” Meaning: “I can’t… I can’t do it. I can’t keep having all this stress every day. It’s too much.” Okay? So: “I can’t take the stress of this job!” All right? One of the terms we use for when you’re more comfortable with what you’re doing is that you’re in your “comfort zone”. It’s like a zone, it’s an area where you’re comfortable. The things that you’re happy doing, the things that you are confident doing, that’s in your comfort zone. So maybe being at home, watching television is in your comfort zone. Maybe going and playing some sports, going swimming which you enjoy, going out with friends may all be in your comfort zone where you are comfortable. Okay? So you stay inside your comfort zone if you don’t really want to try new things. But sometimes, it’s a good idea to go outside your comfort zone or step outside your comfort zone just to test what you might be capable of doing. Okay? Just try a little something that’s different to see how it goes. So it’s not always a good idea to stay within your comfort zone all the time. Try to step outside it occasionally. I often try to try something new, see how it goes, and if it’s successful, then you feel great. “I’ve learnt something new, here”, and then you feel good about yourself. Okay? So, this term also: “Pushing the envelope” is another way of saying “going outside your comfort zone”, “stepping outside”. The idea of being inside an envelope, you have a letter inside, but the envelope is closed. But if you push the envelope, you’re sort of pushing outside it, trying something new, something different. Okay? So trying new things.